Often in my youth what seemed to be a criticism to expand upon my growth was heard as something that was “bad”. When I was a little kid in school I received many a report card saying that I was “Chatty”. Now, if you know me at all you know that this is not a stretch for me! So I got to thinking…. What appears to be a veiled criticism is often one of our greatest attributes. How can we expand upon those statements to help support our growth? Somehow we only hear the negative, the “shouldn’t” and our gremlin gets in the way of hearing its Truth. We hear that no one wants to listen to us so we in turn learn to play small, to be less than. I also heard that I was “highly imaginative but must show self control”. Again I heard “play small”.
When there is a but in a sentence it negates all that has been said before. Hence I did not hear the “imaginative” part I only heard that I “must show self control”. Now if I had stuck to those thoughts I never would have reached the success in my personal and professional life that I have. I am by no means saying that teachers aren’t correct in their assessments… What I am saying is that learning to reframe our thinking around these early taught gremlins, of not being good enough is an excellent way to move through life. To learn to reframe our “Story”.
So what story do you want to tell yourself now? How do you want to show up in the world?
Sometimes it’s nice to get out of email and be LIVE for a change — which is exactly what I’ll be doing Wednesday, April 3, and I’m inviting you to join me!
I’ve been scheduled to appear as a guest on Your Life After Trauma with Michele Rosenthal. If your life has gotten to a point where things feel stuck, stalled or just plain wrong it’s time to think about CHANGING DIRECTION! This hour-long weekly program covers a wide spectrum of topics designed to help you turn yourself around and get headed in the right direction. With guests from backgrounds that include self-help, mental health, trauma, motivation and inspiration, author/speaker/coach/survivor Michele Rosenthal interviews experts and everyday people about what it takes to change direction and how you can get the job done.
I’ll be on the show this Wednesday, April 3 at 2:00 p.m. EST, to talk about positivity and my free online speaker event, The Positivity Project: Expanding Global Optimism at work, at life, which is going strong!
You can listen in to the interview via your computer or phone. Just follow this link for info: Changing Direction.
You can also call in with your comments and questions: 347.324-5164
If you miss the show, you can access the free downloadable archive.
I hope you can join us!
p.s. Here is a great story about The Positivity Project, by Mitch Ditkoff, President of Idea Champions, which ran in the Huffington Post. Thought you might enjoy it!
p.s. Don’t forget about Those Difficult Talks, my book on how to deal with those tough conversations in business.